How dressing “business casual” requires more thought than you think…

As you all know, I have been working as a hairstylist for the past 4 years, and well, it’s an interesting industry, fashion-wise. In one sense, there’s an obligation to look stylish, and look good, as clients do want to be inspired by what they see being worn on the person they trust to do their hair. But also, it’s an environment of work and professionalism. But on another hand overly formal office-y attire looks out of place in a salon. It’s too corporate. Hairstylists are artists. So this is the dilemma. How do we dress interestingly enough to showcase our personalities while being work appropriate, and elevated?

I feel like this problem is extra difficult for women. We have our truly loved relax wear: i.e.. the t-shirts, jeans, joggers… Our hoodies, leggings, shorts and sweatshirts. But let’s be honest. We end up styling ourselves to look like either 12 year old boys or suburban soccer moms in them. They are too casual, and not work appropriate. They lack personality, flare or elegance. But mostly, they lack style. Another error that can happen more to women is dressing cheap looking. Think crop tees, tops that are too tight/lowcut, ugly materials/patterns. Bodycon dresses that look like club wear. Things that are overly revealing. I’m not advocating for dressing like a prude, but even at a club, there’s a sense of class. There is a middle ground between 12 year old and night walker. I’ve found it.

We need to think more about fun and fashionable pieces, styled with jewelry and make up that compliments us, and accessories that show off our personalities while fading into the background of professionalism. We need to care about how we look, without stressing too much about perfection or being superficial. And we need to have a a little class. Without that, I can’t help you. What is classy to some might be lowbrow to others. But there are universal cues on what is daily, work appropriate class. So let’s talk about it!

Mistakes and don’t dos:

  1. Outfits that are too skimpy: Bodycon dresses that are too short. Tight t-shirts/sweaters that are too low cut or sheer; crop top paired with spandex leggings. I’m not against showing skin, but it’s all about balance. When we show off the legs with something short, the tops should be modest. Crop tops are cute, when the bottom half is stylishly covered up with an elegant skirt. Tight body suits make sense, when paired with a relaxed fit slacks. It’s all about balance, and taste. If the weather is cold, wear a fitted turtle neck. It looks put together, but is also sensibly covered up. I used to have a co-worker who complained about being “cold” at work. But she also dressed in flimsy leggings and crop tops. It’s not classy to wear less layers in cold weather. During a heatwave at work, I wore a back-less sundress. The weather made it make sense, and not skimpy. Just think about how you look, and skimpy outfits will cease to make sense professionally.
  2. When comfort looks slovenly: Okay so we all like comfortable clothes. Yes. But since when does that mean t-shirts, sweat shirts, and gym leggings can show up to a work environment paired with poor hygiene? Greasy hair? I don’t think so! I have seen a co worker that often showed up with greasy hair tied back in a tight bun, decked in sweats. It’s a look that is barely passable for crying alone at home, let alone what a top stylist would wear. Tying hair back is not equivalent a shampoo! It looks as if you’re fixing back hair to change the cat’s litter, or scrub the toilet. At this point, when aesthetics are so overlooked, would you trust her with styling your hair? The answer is no. At least come to work with make-up to liven up the eyes, freshen up the complexion. Casual wear is barely work presentable even with make-up, but this co-worker would pair no make up with sloppy clothes unthoughtfully.
  3. Saying you don’t have “money” to buy on trend clothes. This is a mistake and just an excuse. Thrifting and second hand stores are a great option. And no matter how poor you are, every one owns a simple white shirt that fits, a simple dress that is not trampy, jeans that are not ripped up. Sweaters that don’t reveal everything. And dress pants that are flattering while still covering up. Dressing in a way that shows less skin, or doesn’t look like a gym outfit, is not reserved for the rich. It’s an affordable style that shows self-aware mindfulness a workplace, even if it’s not fashion forward. And once that basic skill is mastered, they can then save up to buy statement pieces that speak to who they are.
Do not dress like this. Leggings are inappropriate in any work setting. And t-shirt tanks are casually ugly.

The Do’s List:

  1. Accessorize with intention. On the flipside, I had a style literate coworker who would wear t-shirts and sweats to work. But she wore them oversized and paired them with elaborate jewelry to avoid the slovenly feel of this kind of style can have. She would wash and style her hair with the outfits. And wear make-up. It just worked.
  2. Dress for comfort, but also appropriateness: I’m a fashionista that worked in fashion retail prior, but I also dress in clothes that make sense for my hairdressing job. I don’t wear movement restricting blazers that make it hard to use my arms, even though they are stylish and very professional. I don’t wear skimpy club wear outfits that have me adjusting my hemline or cleavage throughout the busy hairstyling workday. All of the clothes I wear fit the range of bodily motions needed, the weather in place, and the time of day I’m working. They are all thoughtful, make sense and are respectful of the job that I do, and the clients that I serve.
  3. Professional dress doesn’t have to be boring. Find ways to showcase your personal style: For example I don’t like dark or drab coloured clothing. I don’t own that many black pieces, or solid dark clothing. I like flowers, prints, and pastels. I like white flowy things. Frilly pink outfits. Light and bright is the way that I dress. Feminine without the trampy siren look. Pretty, without the cattiness. Find out your personality and translate it into a work wardrobe. That’s how to dress professionally, and at the same time express yourself!
This is actually how I would dress to work. Notice it’s put together but still casual and cool. Functional with the white sneakers! And feminine with the flowy skirt!

I hope my tips/rant helped. I really do feel like there is a parallel to dressing well, and doing the job well. And even if you work in an environment that doesn’t penalize poor style or unprofessional dress…improve your professional styling for yourself. Afterall, you’re the most important member of the audience when critiquing how you look and act. And at the end of the day, you’ll want to look at yourself in the mirror, and be able to agree with others in the room that you do look good.

A look into the new Rom Com “Materialists”: the fashion, the make-up and beyond…

My genre of choice is not the typical chick flick, rom com genre. It’s well known to be a formulaic critically panned genre. At most a guilty pleasure of smart, thinking people when they want a break from being feminists looking for depth in cinematic art. And here’s where I decided to give Materials a try. After reading a few review summaries about it being not the typical rom com, my interest was piqued. One quiet Tuesday night, I went to see this flick with my kid, and I’m glad I did. Here’s why:

The main character is flawed, but lovable because of these flaws. Dakota Johnson plays the lead heroine well. She plays Lucy, a no-nonsense numbers cruncher when it comes to her career as a matchmaker, living in New York City. She excels at the game of matching people up based on statistics and numeral dating “values”. Her flaws show heavily in that having been raised poor, Lucy now covets the flashy, cushy life that dating an affluent man can afford her. Enter Pablo Pascal as Harry, a handsome rich suitor. At the same time however, she still has feelings for her struggling actor ex boyfriend John, played by the hottie Chris Evans.

After developing the main characters, the film expertly directed by Celine Song, talks about real dating world problems, in a contemporary and realistic way…giving way to a more sober and serious rom com that the typical one. There are some funny scenes; Harry’s nod to male vanity, John’s absolutely horrible roommate situation, and Lucy’s experience listening to her client’s delusional dating expectations. But one of the more pressing topics addressed was that of the physical violence that can exist in a modern dating world where people desperate for love, are vulnerable to get victimized and abused.

Dating violence has always existed in any time period, but talking about it at length in a movie is contemporary. Not enough attention has been placed on the intense burden most single women face today because of the pressure to be married and to have children. It is still seen as the main way women are successful in life. That’s right. Being a woman in the top of her industry or earning a lot means nothing. And the status quo culture is still prioritizing getting a “ring on the finger”.Early in the movie, one of Lucy’s clients has cold feet on her own wedding day, having realized she was unsure WHY she was getting married. A reminder that getting a “ring on it” means more than fulfilling romantic destiny.

These stories in the movie Materialists, go on to illustrate how dating and love are not the same thing. Something that fairy tales and proper young ladies like myself and my upbringing were not allowed to explore. But in this day and age, it’s not a new message being expressed, it’s just a more truthful admission of this fact. In the not so distant past, marriages were politically designed unions to join the assets and reproductive values of two families or “corporations”. The smokescreen of the recent era is to erase that reality and place romantic and soulful completeness as the motive for dating. But the reality is “you can’t have your cake and eat it too”. You have to choose one or the other as Lucy did in this film.

And because this is a fashion and make up blog, let’s talk about it!!! The fashion and makeup was so on point in this movie. Dakota Johnson looked beautiful in almost every scene with hair and make-up that was fresh, feminine and smart. Her outfits matched every scene to the tee, and the male fashion was also on point. Both Pablo Pascal and Chris Evans looked amazing. Both male leads had presented themselves as if Dakota had chosen either one of them, it would have been a win win. Must mentions: Lucy’s thick but perfectly cut bangs, and her long flowing mane stole the show. Her sapphire coloured strapless dress in the first act looked expensive and tasteful, complementing her chestnut brown hair. And as she progressed into discovering her deeper romantic destiny, her frilly floral dress at the barn yard wedding visually showed her free spirited headspace and diversion from the past.

I absolutely love this look! The deep blue dress on light skin, the sleek dark hair and cute sandals. A nod to perfection!
Romantic, effortless and feminine. The quintessential get up for a country wedding, while looking modern and relaxed.
Wonderful hair and make up team on this production. Dakota’s complexion glows, her mauve lipstick so wonderfully compliments her dress, hair and eye make-up!

Are you going to give this unconventional rom com a try? please do! It will not disappoint!

Why Cruises may be the best vacation out there…

I feel like vacations are important. They are part of the well being and mental health routine; way up there in terms of a non drug treatment for common malaise and mild chronic depression. Day to day life needs adventure, leisure, and change…we’re not all rich, so what can give us all of that at a decent price? Why I think that would be a cruise. I recently came back from a 5 night vacay on a ship going to the Caribbean for the second time, and I can definitely say that I had fun, relaxation and thrills. Pretty good food and just amazing travel views. That is what is in store on a cruise on these beautiful ships. Whether it’s an old vessel or new one, big or small, the glamour of sailing the high seas is alive and well in this culture. And without trying to sound like a travel agent trying to sell cruise vacations, here are the reasons, for me, why it may be the perfect getaway from our land locked lives!

On my very first Caribbean cruise. Is it obvious that I liked it? The deep blue sea was amazing!
  1. Value: Because cruising includes food and entertainment and lodgings, even transport between ports on the itinerary, there is no need to use our wallets that much. I’ve come back from land vacation trips where the expenses while in that destination was astronomical. (New York City, I love ya, but what gives?) While cruises do tend to have a lot of add ons and while in port there is often spending, it’s just not equal to what is doled out for land vacations where a dinner out can be hundreds and tourist sites can chart a hefty sum to visit. While it’s also expensive to book excursions with the cruise line, one can simply decide to stay on the ship, or tour ports on their own, with a bit of research. In that way, one can tailor a cruise: is the trip going to be a splurge trip with specialty dining and fancy excursions? Or a more pared down budget friendly option? It’s adjustable to each sailing.
  2. Being truly removed from anywhere: “Like Robinson Caruso, it’s primitive as can be..” lyrics from the old t.v. show Gilligan’s Island, it rings true with cruises. Being on a ship in the middle of an ocean feels like a remote desert island in some way. And because we are removed from the everyday, we have time to think, time to problem solve and time to really disconnect. There are no reminders of home on land and suddenly just “existing” is at the center of it all…
  3. No dishes and house chores: Let’s be honest…daily life and life chores are mundane. Going to get groceries, cooking, doing dishes, taking out garbage and such…it’s all really boring. Going to work daily…these are just boring motions of modern society. Cruises are the antithesis of that! Just show up on the ship, get taken care of daily in cabins that are cleaned and meals that are lovely…explore what new foods can tickle the tastebuds without even washing a plate! No lining up at the grocery store…everything just appears! just like that!
  4. Live Entertainment is just a short walk away: On my two past cruises, I saw singers and dancers, stand up comedians, acrobatics, and live music that would get one dancing in the isles. Cruise directors and their team hosting game shows and trivia…and it was all soooo close to my stateroom cabin. All so accessible…there is no city or travel spot in the world that can give that same convenience.
  5. It’s Educational: Not that one can’t learn about big tourist cities when visiting, but because cruises visit many ports during a sailing, the opportunity to get a wider scope or perspective on a larger area can be acquired. For example Caribbean cruises visit many islands, and because it’s just for one day, it can make it extra special to learn about the speific place while in port…since tomorrow, a passenger will be elsewhere. And in that sense one can get easily acquire general knowledge about a geographical region in a short time frame. Same thing goes for Alaskan or Mediterranean cruises. It’s easier to get a general view of a geographical area.
On my second cruise and I felt at home…There is lots of glamour to be had on designated “formal nights” on many sailings!

I used to relate cruising to that of a expensive luxury, a past-time for “older folks” with time and monies…but now after trying out two cruises, I can say I’m hooked. The truths about cruising for me is that I find them culturally valuable and time well spent. A vacation that is actually a thoughtful getaway from daily life. Whether lounging poolside, having an adventure on a shore excursion or playing shuffleboard on deck seaside…life is good when on the high seas. And the leisure component of vacationing is truly potent when sailing away on these big ships in the middle of the vast blue ocean.