5 Common Make up Mistakes that We Become Blind to for Some Reason…

So we all know that girl. With the perfect skin and illuminous glow, the wonderful smile and sparkle in her eyes. And it looks like herself, not like make-up. We’ve wondered if she is an influencer or a part time model. We wonder if she wears make-up at all, because we can’t see it. This is the kind of make-up that is aspirational. The kind that is almost invisible. Makes us look like ourselves, but better. And I recently thought about some mistakes that we might be doing every morning when we do our habitual make up routine unknowingly, even after decades of wearing make-up expertly. These mistakes in application can be hard to spot, even for me, since I’m over 40 with a need for reading glasses! Investing in a magnifying mirror like I did when applying make-up will really level up the game when it comes to make-up application.. But here goes, the main mistakes we need to notice to fix:

  1. Uneven/unblended foundation: This is the look of something slightly cakey or dry on top of the skin. Cakey textures are hard to see sometimes because when we use a full coverage foundation, we see it covering up skin discolourations and we assume it’s doing its job. But coverage is just as important as invisibility. If the foundation is not applied evenly, or there is build up of it in an area, it will look cakey. Check the cheekbones, sides of the face, corners of the mouth: the coverage should be smooth, invisible. If not, smudge it out with a blending sponge or wipe off excess with a tissue. Sometimes having a moisturizer on the face prior to using foundation helps thin out and blend the foundation to be more invisible. Also be careful not to use too much setting powder because that can add an overly dry, unnatural matte texture. The finished foundation look should be slightly dewy and glow-y, as skin tends to look that way naturally!
  2. Spidery Mascara: This mistake looks like heavy spider legs, clumping and weighing down the lashes. I noticed some formulas of mascara, even in the same products, are inconsistent when it comes to wetness. If mascara is too wet, it will load on too much product and weight down the lashes in clumps. In cases like this, I recommend using multiple coats only before it dries, i.e. do one adequate coat (versus letting it dry a minute and then going for a second coat). Another thing I like to do is to use my clean finger tip and push up on the lashes after application, to pick up excess product, lift the lash as it dries and smooth out clumps.
  3. Blush that sits on the surface of the skin: This mistake has a powdery texture, can be overly matte, and has no translucently. It’s a blush look that’s okay for photos or full face make-up, but it’s a bit too unnatural for daily face looks. I used to think that I was using too much blush when my cheeks looked too pink in the mirror. And I used to use the tiniest amounts with the faintest pink colours, thinking that it’ll look more natural. But it’s not the shade, it’s the texture of the blush. Find one with a bit of transparency so that the skin is visible underneath it. It looks way more natural that way. I feel cream or liquid blushes tend to be more transparent and natural looking.
  4. Overly lined eyes: This mistake happens often and looks like bandit eyes! I can even see it in movie make-up sometimes too. It’s not flattering, it’s distracting. Dark and thick eyeliners lined entirely around the eyes can actually make them look smaller by diminishing the whites of the eyes. It’s better to tightline the eyes (a technique of just lining the lash line thinly, to even it out) And if there is a desire for some graphic definition of the eyes, just a winged liquid liner on the top lash line will do the trick. If only using a pencil liner, try to smudge and soften the eyeliner after application with a smudge tool, or clean eyeshadow brush: smudge both the top and bottom lids. For the bottom lid I always line it with a dark eyeshadow instead of liner so that it’s extra soft looking. And I still smudge it with my fingers too.
  5. Eyebrows too dark and defined: This mistake gets overlooked often, but it’s when the eyebrows are darkly filled in and opaque. They brows don’t have any dimension and look drawn in with ink or tattooed on. I don’t really like this look because it reminds me of the painted brows on a doll or mask. It doesn’t look real or natural. It looks too severe as well, hardening the face and the gaze of the eyes. Again, as with eyeliner, I think softness is the way to go. To fix this, use a powder/pencil brow colour several shades lighter than our natural hair colour. And smudge the brow application and comb it with an eyebrow brush for extra softness.
This is an example of cakey foundation and overlined eyes. While, not the worst, Gretchen here looks just overly done up. Mean Girls 2004, Paramount Picures.

So there it is, guys. The 5 most common make-up mistakes I always see. As a disclaimer, I think make-up and beauty is subjective sometimes…and if some of these mistakes are done intentionally to achieve a certain vibe, then all the best with their use! But if these mistakes are things that arise from years of wearing make-up and not noticing the tiny effects the wrong application or wrong products can produce, we can all pay better attention. After all, our busy lives are not an excuse for showing up with anything other than the appearance of being bright eyed and bushy tailed. Because we’re the “influencer” of our own lives.

This is a clean make-up I do on a daily basis when I’m not going out or working. And I like it because it looks natural and uses my 5 tips!

Are there rules to Make Up after 40?

I have passed by countless articles and videos on social media over the past few years about how wearing and applying make-up is different for aging faces. And I never paid much attention to them, always skimming the feeds and skipping the links. The main reason is that I have just looked very youthful for most of my adulthood and did not feel the tips applied to me. My vanity and confidence in my youthful appearance would not let me entertain the idea that I maybe needed these tips…it’s not for me, I always told myself. But here I am, thinking more about it more recently. I now do see fine lines appearing, and places on my face that are a bit saggy. So what are these make up tips/rules now that I can see changes? I want to write down some of my own tips that I believe are ageless good practice, fand have nothing to do with being “over 40”.

Truth is, I don’t believe age should affect make-up application, colours or techniques, that’s too broad of a generalization. I think that changes in make up application is more personal and should be tailored. As a society that is pushing more forward with gender inclusivity, political and social awareness, the place that I feel is still left behind is the stigma with aging female bodies. Society assumes certain things about someone of a certain age. Older women especially seem to get pigeon holed into categories that are age biased and unpleasant, A “hag”, a “cougar”, “grandma”, “milf”, “pre-menopausal”…etc. Even the well meaning “mature” lady is kind of well, sucky. As one ages, skin texture does change, but instead of calling it aging skin or “over 40 skin”, it should be recognized as just a change in texture.

My Makeup Tips for Skin with fine lines and less plumpness:

  • Moisture is everything: Fine lines are actually accentuated by dry skin. Be sure to hydrate internally (drink lots of water) but also externally. Antioxidants like vitamin E oil does double duty, it hydrates and increases the suppleness of skin on an outer level. It also promotes healing from sun damage or pollution in the air.
  • Sunscreen should be in the makeup or under the makeup. Science doesn’t lie. UV rays in the sun does cause aging of the skin, dryness and fine lines.
  • Be careful with cosmetic powders. I love a pretty eye shadow colour, and setting powders to make make up last. But powders also absorb moisture and is drying in that sense. I now opt for cream eye shadows, and cream blush. And only use a light dusting of face powder over my foundation. We want a bit of shine and glow as we age, since powdery and cakey make the skin look like it is dry and wrinkly.
  • Exfoliate often: cell turn over rate slows down over the years. Help out the face by using gentle exfoliants to keep skin soft and diffuse any fine lines that may want to show up on dead skin. I like to use a lactic acid exfoliator. Super gentle.
  • Metallic shimmer is pretty, but it’s light reflecting ablity can settle into fine lines and highlight what is not smooth. Choose makeup colours that are matte or pearlescent. Much more flattering.
  • No harsh lines: eyeliner should be super soft and blended, with the exception of liquid liner to get a bold cat eye line. Otherwise, pencil liners should be diffused with a blending tool for softness. Add to the softness by opting for a charcoal grey pencil colour instead of jet black!
Mimimal powder and cream blush and cream eyeshadow. Blended eyeliner. It makes all the difference I feel these days to flatter my changing skin.

These are my tips for the small changes I see in my skin and how make-up might be adapted to better suit me. But everyone is different! I have talked to people whose faces actually get oilier as they get older and in that sense would have a different set of tips for make up. At the end of the day, just stay beautiful and take the best care of oneself possible. Be thoughtful and willing to change routines and rituals.