How dressing “business casual” requires more thought than you think…

As you all know, I have been working as a hairstylist for the past 4 years, and well, it’s an interesting industry, fashion-wise. In one sense, there’s an obligation to look stylish, and look good, as clients do want to be inspired by what they see being worn on the person they trust to do their hair. But also, it’s an environment of work and professionalism. But on another hand overly formal office-y attire looks out of place in a salon. It’s too corporate. Hairstylists are artists. So this is the dilemma. How do we dress interestingly enough to showcase our personalities while being work appropriate, and elevated?

I feel like this problem is extra difficult for women. We have our truly loved relax wear: i.e.. the t-shirts, jeans, joggers… Our hoodies, leggings, shorts and sweatshirts. But let’s be honest. We end up styling ourselves to look like either 12 year old boys or suburban soccer moms in them. They are too casual, and not work appropriate. They lack personality, flare or elegance. But mostly, they lack style. Another error that can happen more to women is dressing cheap looking. Think crop tees, tops that are too tight/lowcut, ugly materials/patterns. Bodycon dresses that look like club wear. Things that are overly revealing. I’m not advocating for dressing like a prude, but even at a club, there’s a sense of class. There is a middle ground between 12 year old and night walker. I’ve found it.

We need to think more about fun and fashionable pieces, styled with jewelry and make up that compliments us, and accessories that show off our personalities while fading into the background of professionalism. We need to care about how we look, without stressing too much about perfection or being superficial. And we need to have a a little class. Without that, I can’t help you. What is classy to some might be lowbrow to others. But there are universal cues on what is daily, work appropriate class. So let’s talk about it!

Mistakes and don’t dos:

  1. Outfits that are too skimpy: Bodycon dresses that are too short. Tight t-shirts/sweaters that are too low cut or sheer; crop top paired with spandex leggings. I’m not against showing skin, but it’s all about balance. When we show off the legs with something short, the tops should be modest. Crop tops are cute, when the bottom half is stylishly covered up with an elegant skirt. Tight body suits make sense, when paired with a relaxed fit slacks. It’s all about balance, and taste. If the weather is cold, wear a fitted turtle neck. It looks put together, but is also sensibly covered up. I used to have a co-worker who complained about being “cold” at work. But she also dressed in flimsy leggings and crop tops. It’s not classy to wear less layers in cold weather. During a heatwave at work, I wore a back-less sundress. The weather made it make sense, and not skimpy. Just think about how you look, and skimpy outfits will cease to make sense professionally.
  2. When comfort looks slovenly: Okay so we all like comfortable clothes. Yes. But since when does that mean t-shirts, sweat shirts, and gym leggings can show up to a work environment paired with poor hygiene? Greasy hair? I don’t think so! I have seen a co worker that often showed up with greasy hair tied back in a tight bun, decked in sweats. It’s a look that is barely passable for crying alone at home, let alone what a top stylist would wear. Tying hair back is not equivalent a shampoo! It looks as if you’re fixing back hair to change the cat’s litter, or scrub the toilet. At this point, when aesthetics are so overlooked, would you trust her with styling your hair? The answer is no. At least come to work with make-up to liven up the eyes, freshen up the complexion. Casual wear is barely work presentable even with make-up, but this co-worker would pair no make up with sloppy clothes unthoughtfully.
  3. Saying you don’t have “money” to buy on trend clothes. This is a mistake and just an excuse. Thrifting and second hand stores are a great option. And no matter how poor you are, every one owns a simple white shirt that fits, a simple dress that is not trampy, jeans that are not ripped up. Sweaters that don’t reveal everything. And dress pants that are flattering while still covering up. Dressing in a way that shows less skin, or doesn’t look like a gym outfit, is not reserved for the rich. It’s an affordable style that shows self-aware mindfulness a workplace, even if it’s not fashion forward. And once that basic skill is mastered, they can then save up to buy statement pieces that speak to who they are.
Do not dress like this. Leggings are inappropriate in any work setting. And t-shirt tanks are casually ugly.

The Do’s List:

  1. Accessorize with intention. On the flipside, I had a style literate coworker who would wear t-shirts and sweats to work. But she wore them oversized and paired them with elaborate jewelry to avoid the slovenly feel of this kind of style can have. She would wash and style her hair with the outfits. And wear make-up. It just worked.
  2. Dress for comfort, but also appropriateness: I’m a fashionista that worked in fashion retail prior, but I also dress in clothes that make sense for my hairdressing job. I don’t wear movement restricting blazers that make it hard to use my arms, even though they are stylish and very professional. I don’t wear skimpy club wear outfits that have me adjusting my hemline or cleavage throughout the busy hairstyling workday. All of the clothes I wear fit the range of bodily motions needed, the weather in place, and the time of day I’m working. They are all thoughtful, make sense and are respectful of the job that I do, and the clients that I serve.
  3. Professional dress doesn’t have to be boring. Find ways to showcase your personal style: For example I don’t like dark or drab coloured clothing. I don’t own that many black pieces, or solid dark clothing. I like flowers, prints, and pastels. I like white flowy things. Frilly pink outfits. Light and bright is the way that I dress. Feminine without the trampy siren look. Pretty, without the cattiness. Find out your personality and translate it into a work wardrobe. That’s how to dress professionally, and at the same time express yourself!
This is actually how I would dress to work. Notice it’s put together but still casual and cool. Functional with the white sneakers! And feminine with the flowy skirt!

I hope my tips/rant helped. I really do feel like there is a parallel to dressing well, and doing the job well. And even if you work in an environment that doesn’t penalize poor style or unprofessional dress…improve your professional styling for yourself. Afterall, you’re the most important member of the audience when critiquing how you look and act. And at the end of the day, you’ll want to look at yourself in the mirror, and be able to agree with others in the room that you do look good.

Yes! There is more work in Haircare for Coloured Hair…

I’ve been wanting to talk about how often I have heard this reason people use for not coloring their hair: It’s often because in the past the hair colour (especially lightening) had “wrecked” their hair health and it didn’t look good the subsequent weeks after the process….and I have only one thing to say to that. That’s not really a reason not to colour! Lightening and colouring hair doesn’t have to be inherently damaging. Coloured hair does however require more work, time and cost to maintain it’s health afterwards. It’s the sentiment that anything that’s worth having takes WORK. It’s like how committing to a more streamlined body may require more hours at the gym, wherein the goal for exercise is no longer about health–it’s about achieving or maintaining a look. It’s about being willing to put in extra effort to get the look we want! As a hairdresser I know about the high cost of maintenance so I agree that for some, it’s sometimes not worth it. But for that practical reason, it’s a “different song and dance”.

This is my hair colour when it’s not styled. But even so. a lot goes into this look including not washing it often, leave in treatments, oils…etc.

The Hurdles of Hair Colour And After-Care:

  1. Retouches: Hair grows…the last I checked, so that means after two months about an inch of regrowth is expected. While the natural hair color is okay on it’s own, the line that happens when the new growth meets existing artificial colour is usually not flattering. Here’s where maintenance is required. Refreshing the roots of the hair is a must and the most that a root smudge can do is prolong the need for refreshing.
  2. Re-toning: Even if a root retouch is not necessary, sometimes toning is. Artificial colour is not really permanent, even if it says it is. After exposure to shampoos and the sun, the hair colour will fade, leaving behind the brassiness that was previously covered up. Re-toning is often a procedure for blondes and cool toned brunettes when the colour fades.
  3. Excessive Dryness: because the cuticle of the hair needs to be lifted to be coloured, it never lies as flat as it did before dying. That means the hair strand’s ability to hold onto moisture will be compromised. Heavy conditioners with moisturizing properties must be utilize to maintain shine and mitigate frizz! Leave-ins and oils too!
  4. Weaker hair prone to breakage: Colouring hair depletes some of the proteins/keratins in the hair strand making it more prone to breakage. Keratin repair masks will be needed occasionally to help strengthen the hair and prevent breakage. This is especially true for blondes that were lifted starting from very dark bases.
  5. Change in haircare routines: Because coloured hair tends to be more fragile, it often benefits from less washing and styling. Shampooing lowers the natural pH in the hair and does cause it physical stress. We love the feeling of squeaky clean hair but seeking that too frequently comes at as cost. A new routine of less washing and more leave in conditioners and oils become the daily norm!
  6. Extra styling: Wash and go. That’s a term we all love! It means after shampooing and conditioning, little styling or products are needed. Air drying, and just a quick rough tumble under the hair dryer at most. But often after colouring, hair needs more styling to get the hair looking less frizzy; extra products and heat tools like a flat iron might be needed to make the hair look smooth!

Is this too much work and maintenance for having a different hair colour? But that is the true cost of hair colour…in the end, I guess it is to each their own. But that’s the reality of anything done for cosmetic reasons. It takes work. But doesn’t mean we shouldn’t do it! For me, hair is like a canvas for expression, but as an extension of our bodies, it is also more than that.

This is the heavy line up of arsenals I use for my blonde care! A gentle shampoo, moisture mask, purple toning conditioner, anti breakage leave in, K18 treatment, coconut oil, and a wet brush to name a few!!!!

Mid Summer’s Day Dream…

This summer 2023 has been a difficult one for me. With my decision to not travel and just save up for winter holidays, I feel I had inadvertently set myself up to be locked up in a slump. City life during the hot months in Toronto is not the most relaxing or pretty. Construction, sticky smoggy air, bad traffic and noise is the reality of summer in the city. I realized how some people, the “elite people”; i.e.. the well-to-do people of Toronto get to go away in their fancy cars and drive up north to the various scenic lakefront properties they own or rent. They get to have a real getaway rather easily, and spend lots of their weekends by sitting on the dock on a quiet lake and watching the waves, and just truly recharging.

I feel like this summer in particular, I had the need for escaping. But unfortunately, I could not. Certain aspects of my personal life and work life had gotten hectic; not being able to foresee this happening earlier this spring, as mid summer arrived, I was hit! I was left in a lot of emotional turmoil with no exit or break from it in sight. I did end up taking a week off of work…but then what? I thought to myself on the first few days of my staycation..This so called “vacation” ultimately would require me to work at turning off my brain and anxieties without a true physical getaway. I had to plan local outings, I had to find my friends. And on days where those options weren’t available I was truly unhappy. There is nothing worse that being on a vacation where I could not escape the boredom or malaise that was my life while it was summer in the city. I don’t have AC, so imagine me heatedly crouched over my bed post to stretch myself to the window to smoke mini cigars. That was my one of my escapes as weak as it was.

My week of being off work is coming to an end and I still think about how if I had been more privileged or luckier in life I too could have been one of those free people up at the cottage when us low folk down here have to work and toil. And if not work and toil, take staycations that are just unpaid unrelaxing wastes of times. My only solace was to splurge a bit and spend a half a day at a nice pool lounge in downtown Toronto. With no one bothering me and my surroundings being totally new, it was a lovely change from my usual routine. Sitting poolside or near any body of water always seems to calm me and the cool breeze of the rooftop pool was comforting. It made me forget some of my pains.

After that moment of solitude by the pool…I feel it is possible to have some beautiful moments in trying times…looking at what possessions and resources others had and what I didn’t was not what I should have been doing. But after a week off with some torturously boring moments where I wondered what I was doing with my life, I had the advantage of an good expanse of time; where I was able to examine my own resources and mobilize to use them. I was able to put down my mini cigar and realize that there are little pieces of paradise in the city and in our minds if we only allow ourselves to find it.

Working hard or hardly working? When at the poolside who really knows? This was my tiny escape from summer in Toronto with no cottage.